Yet Another Example of Truth Being Stranger Than Fiction

Today is my divorce hearing. The past couple months, while stressful, have been relatively smooth (mom, it’s all a matter of perspective) and this date has arrived with little fanfare.

My friends and family have been very supportive since we first decided to split up, but I found an ally in one person I didn’t anticipate. I have an aunt who’s also going through a divorce, and over the summer we discovered that we could talk to each other in a way we couldn’t with anyone else. (At least that was the case for me.) Yes, I have friends who’ve been divorced and they’ve offered wonderful advice, but there’s something about talking to someone who’s going through it at the same time that’s especially helpful. Plus, most people — no matter how supportive — get tired of divorce talk after a period of time.

This morning I’m meeting my aunt for breakfast before I head to the courthouse, but she’s not joining me for moral support. As fate, luck, or whatever-you-want-to-call-it would have it, her court date is also today. At the same time. In the same courtroom. With the same judge.

And to top it all off, we’re both going back to our maiden names — Hooyenga. You can bet the judge doesn’t see THAT every day.


39 Responses

  1. Mel, all the best today to you and your aunt.

    • Thanks Jason. You’re support has meant a lot through this process.

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  3. Good luck! Will be thinking of you. And that breakfast, mmm.

    • Thanks! Breakfast was good. And I didn’t realize until lunch that she paid for me.

  4. I’ve been there — never realizing like when getting married and you walk in single and then walk out married with divorce, it’s the opposite. I have to hold myself back from saying “That’s where I got divorced” every time I pass the courthouse (if I’m with my kids). In a way it’s also a celebration, but without the cake and fancy dress. Not in a mean way, but a celebration of what will be — of moving forward.

    Thinking of you and wishing you the best.

    • Amy, that’s hilarious. I read your comment while we were at breakfast and shared it with my aunt. You provided a much needed laugh. :)

  5. I’ll be keeping my thoughts with you and and your aunt this morning.

  6. Good luck MC Hoo. You know what would make the preceding go smoother? Yeah, Hammerpants. Just sayin’. ;) I know you’ll do great!

    What’s for breakfast? :)

    • It’s so not gonna happen.

      Eggs Benedict. I didn’t realize the irony until I wrote it out.

  7. That’s freakish. All the best! :)

  8. Good luck today, Hoo. I’ll be thinking of you!!

  9. Good luck! Just think of the story you and your aunt are giving that judge to tell during his retirement years.

    • The judge didn’t seem to care. I was quite dissapointed. The woman at the social security office however…

  10. That is stranger then fiction. What are the odds?

    As far as the divorce part, it is a little surreal and anti-climatic but it is definitely a moving on moment with mixed feelings. Does that make sense?

    Will be thinking of you.

    • It makes all the sense in the world.

      When I first found out her court date I was surprised for about two seconds, then I thought “yeah, that sounds about right.”

  11. Waitress slapdown at noon, be there or be square!

    Much love today, my friend-

  12. The only thing cooler than a Hoo is a DoubleHoo. :-)



  13. Hugs and support for the new chapter in your life. I’m glad you have someone who is there with you the whole way. <3

    • Thanks, she’s definitely made it more bearable.

  14. *hugs* That’s really kind of awesome! Good luck!

  15. Good luck to you both!

  16. Hope it goes smoothly and quickly for you both.

    • Very smooth, thanks. But also very bizarre. There’s a blog post a’brewin.

  17. Good luck today. And that’s definitely stranger than fiction!!

  18. Best to both of you.

  19. Hope all went well today; Mel! (Both for you and Nettie).

    • Thanks Vicki. It went as well as can be expected.

  20. That is nuts. I hope your day wasn’t too crazy. Thinking about ya ;o)

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